• Tanner Kern

Being Comfortable in your Own Skin

In today's world, many people don't love who they are on the inside and out. Social media has allowed people to give off the perception that they love who they are on the surface, but this often isn't the case inside the individual. I can personally attest to this and I have seen it with many others as well. It's a sad fact of the world we live in today.


There was a period when I wasn't comfortable with who I was at all. It was a rough time for me because it sucks not loving who you are. I would see people and wish I was like them physically or I would see kids my age partying and say "is there something wrong with me" because partying just isn't really my thing! I also worried about 'likes' which is one of the stupidest things a person could ever do. Once I stopped playing football these issues flooded my head. I also had people in my life that wanted me to be like 'everyone else' as if there is one specific type of person. There is OBVIOUSLY NOT one specific type of person, but I fell for this idea with the hope of pleasing others. Looking back now, I realize how naive this mindset was and I wish I wouldn't have taken a break from loving who I was on the inside and out.


I would see people on Instagram and wish I had their body. I HATED my body and this led to some very unhealthy ways of living. I hated my body so much that I bought an ab vibrator to try to burn off belly fat when my loose stomach skin wasn't disappearing. You can laugh...It's okay! I was also surrounded by partying and once football ended I didn't seem to tolerate it anymore. I judged myself because it seemed everyone couldn't wait to get to the bar on a Saturday night and I just didn't which I believed to be negative on my part.


Was I missing out?

Now, I can genuinely say no because it wasn't what I wanted to do, but in the moment I wasn't this certain.


If you don't fit into the 'norm' don't judge yourself, but instead love yourself. There isn't a better gift in life than being your own person and genuinely loving who you are. At certain ages this is really tough, but just hang on because it will be a prize down the road.


So when did the switch happen for myself?


It wasn't a quick switch, but instead a gradual change. I began embracing who I was as a person and stopped judging myself when my actions didn't fit in to what kids my age were doing.


I don't like drinking alcohol

I'd rather spend my Saturday nights relaxing than partying

I kinda hate bars

I don't do any drugs

I control my demons by running really long distances


...and that's okay because it's what I want to do.


Once I stopped trying to be someone else, I learned to love and embrace who I was in all aspects of my life.


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Tanner Kern is a 22 year old coach, runner, and blogger from Connecticut. He is the host of The Tanner Kern Podcast and creator of "It's a Process: A Blog About Life, Running, and Everything in Between."

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